Over here, we have a word---condescending. You probably know it as you are more well-versed in English than most Americans. No one likes to be addressed as if they were an underling, someone who needs to be told not to touch the hot stove. That is my beef. Even those who disagree with me do so with respect and I try my best to offer them the same courtesy.
I did use the "J" word on Dane. I absolutely detest asking a logical question and being scoffed at. So even though he has a pretty darn good system--XOXOX--I have no respect for him
I'm done with this mess!! Done, I say!!